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Once, in an
ancient circus a dear mother elephant gave birth to her one and only offspring,
a son. She loved him as a good mother should, cared for and protected him.
As the boy elephant grew, things about him came to light. He was intelligent,
curious, obedient and as all elephants should, remembered everything. One thing
stood out; he had very long ears. In fact, as he grew, his ears grew twice as
fast. Soon, they drug the ground when he walked and came underfoot, causing him
to step on them and trip. When he tried to run and play, he'd fall, roll in the
dirt and tumble like a weed.
Then the greatest of insults: the other circus animals laughed and ridiculed
him. They called him "Dumbo". After a time, mostly all the mother's
son could do was hide shyly behind her and weep in shame. Even his mother felt
the disgrace and became disheartened.
As a last resort, Mother Elephant hired a coach for her son. The coach was
called "Timothy the Mouse". He wore a red top hat, a gold chain
around his tiny neck and waved a baton in the air when he gave orders. Up onto
the head of Dumbo he sprang to get to work and solve this problem. But, this
was no run-of-the-mill coaching challenge. Dumbo was mired in negative self
image. He told Timothy he, the coach, was the worst of his tormentors teasing
him with false promise of success despite his birth defect.
Timothy persisted. "You are not who you think you are. You are a flying
elephant, the star of the circus, the only such elephant alive. Come on. I'll
prove it to you. Climb with me to the top of the tallest circus tent pole, jump
and you will fly." Both Dumbo and his mother thought this was over the
line for Timothy to taunt Dumbo with his disability and Mother Elephant fired
Timothy the Mouse on the spot.
"I have one last secret plan", Timothy said. "One more try and
I'll leave you alone in your misery. Just a minute and I'll be right back. I
have to get my secret weapon."
Soon he returned with a large black feather. "Here, Dumbo. Hold this magic
feather in your trunk when you jump and it will make you fly. You'll be the
star of the show, rich and famous. To prove my belief in you, I'm gonna sit on
top your head when you jump. If you crash, I'll crash. We'll both be circus
toast!"
Dumbo had no better plan. Neither did his mother. Secretly, both thought Dumbo
might be better off dead. So, Dumbo made the climb with Timothy to the top of
the tent. He held the magic feather tightly in his trunk, closed his tearful
eyes and when Timothy counted to "Three", he jumped.
"Wheeee," yelled Timothy.
"This is really fun!" Dumbo opened one eye a squint and looked out.
Only, he had to look down to see anything. Sure enough, his ears were wings and
he was flying high above the circus sawdust floor.
To shorten the telling of this hugely successful story, Dumbo became the hit of
the circus. People thronged to see the amazing, flying elephant. He was no
longer sad. His mother was no longer embarrassed. But, that is not where this
story ends.
One afternoon, as he always did, Dumbo jumped to the drum roll far below him
and the crowd held their breath while Timothy sat smiling in his usual spot on
Dumbo's head. But Dumbo had become a bit careless. He forgot to hold the magic
feather tightly and it blew from his trunk. Down they plunged, the proud little
coach and the mighty flying elephant, the only one in the world.
Timothy knew what to do. He leaned forward and yelled into Dumbo's ear.
"Dumbo, that feather was not magic. It came from the old crow that sits
outside on top the circus tent. I used it to help you believe in yourself.
You're the one who's been doing the magic flying all along. You have yourself
and you no longer need that old feather, or me, for that matter."
Again, Dumbo had no better plan. So he stretched out his ears and turned them
into splendid wings just before he and his coach would have crashed into the
ground. "Wow!," said Timothy the Mouse. "That was close. But you
did it, Dumbo. You've turned your best into success." And they celebrated
for the rest of the day.
Paraphrased
with great liberties from a story titled "Dumbo the Flying Elephant"
by Disney, 1941: Helen Aberson and Harold Pearl, 1939.
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